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Not only that, but we prepare and do all necessary actions and behavior for this to actually happen.

Bad things may very from case to case. It can be that a person does not take down the toilet lid from having a bad temper or something else. Usually we are not ready to confront those and when the looooove period ends we thing that our relationship is an abomination . Thus we break seeking pleasure somewhere else.

Same thing seems to happen in our jobs, relations with relatives, parents, friends, etc. From one point it does not look strange as many can say that if something is not good for me then don’t I have to change it? Yet, it is good to question ourselves what we really ask from our relationships? Do we go in them pumped up that only good things we happen? That bad will never occur?

That we say (having already a series of broken relations) I am prepared also for the bad things the situation will bring, but we really do not mean it as “we deserve happiness ever after”?

In such, don’t we then seek only the pleasurable side of life without actually giving anything to it? I mean, I am thinking that maybe we go into any kind of relationship to take and never to give. Even when we make this fairy tale in our mind that we do so.

What drives all these situations? Who is the one really who is doing the relationship? Perhaps our Egos? Why not? Egos, need to exist. They will drive us to all situations that will support and enhance their existence.

Where does this leads us? Usually we encounter some form of pain in various stages. Pain when we “find out” that this is not the one (job, spouse, etc). Another type is, when someone who was an idol for us (we build it usually) suddenly is not. And usually we blame him for not being so.

Yet, what are the reactions in all these situations? How do we confront them? Usually a divorce of any kind occurs. This can be logical when apparently either person wants to work on a relationship or simply the situation does not go anywhere. Perhaps it was a bad choice from the beginning. Who knows?

There, comes in a very delicate point which prepares the ground for our next failure. Actually it was always there, didn’t just came in…

The lack or superficial way or pride we have not to look at ourselves and find out where our behavior drove our past actions and how these influence our feature actions. Literally, what really really really happens with our psyche.

Someone has to be either brave or to get too much troubled about repeating behaviors in his life around this concept of pleasure (and pain) to sit down and see it. Thus, not to simply say who is right and who is wrong but to get the knowledge of things. To realize a truth that is behind right and wrong, good and bad.

This can be rather shocking when someone does it. It can literally reveal to him a part of secrets of life. Perhaps then the next time he will understand that any kind of engagement (with the general meaning of the term) involves responsibility.

And this responsibility is probably enhanced and gets more serious when things like psychological improvement, toleration, lessons, teachings, common effort are taking place. We cannot expect that every situation in our lives will be jolly good. But how we behave and how far our behavior goes in this situation and what we learn is another thing. We cannot expect others either to “choose” to fit in our profile of thinking or to get out. Perhaps our profile has serious issues that need to be changed.

Concluding (figure of speech…), we tend to seek pleasure all around us. Thus we make the same serious mistakes that keep repeating in all aspects of our life. Someone stops this when he sees how this thing works and does all the necessary actions to eliminate it piece by piece from his psyche. Not from others.

As what we see in others and what we do not understand is usually the very immediate thing we need to see to ourselves (Samael Aun Weor).

And this for me is actually Knowing. Not simply getting the info. But putting it into practice and try to get rid of it in every little corner of our internal situation. We of course can decide not to do it, but this has more side effects. You can probably recognize many patterns in your own lives as you read this text…

There is a Greek verb which describes this all phase of illusions about our life that people some time use for others. It is called (in Greek) “Paramhithiazome”. This means that we make fairy tale realities and we live in them.

What do you think?

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